Dating nice guys boring
Maybe women see nice guys as long-term relationship material, but not as the guys they might pursue for a fling.If so, this would suggest that until a woman is interested in establishing a steady partnership, she may sacrifice niceness for other desirable attributes.I don't see the younger generation of women catching on however. They think the stable provider will miraculously appear when they are ready to settle down.
For long-term relationships, non-physical characteristics take precedence: Women care more about kindness and warmth and less about status and physical attractiveness. An experimental study revealed that men who behaved pro-socially—being nice—positively affected women’s ratings of their physical attractiveness, sexual attractiveness, and dating desirability, while social dominance alone had no impact on these judgments (Jensen-Campbell, Graziano, & West, 1995).
This may give the nice guys out there some hope if they mistakenly think that being nice is a detriment: Nice is a foundational characteristic that has a positive influence on women’s preferences. Women want a man that can do the things that they can't do.
Fundamentally, women are intrinsically greedy and self-serving and they want men that are the jerks that they want to be.
It seems that it doesn't happen until after they are in a relationship with a jerk. Your problem is that instead of looking for a woman of good character that can appreciate that you are a "plain looking" nice guy, you are looking for a "good looking woman"/ "attractive women." What's wrong with a plain looking nice woman?
They want the long term relationship and the nice guys once they're single and saddled with raising the kids of the jerks on their own.