Widower dating wedding ring

When Jeremy died, his ring went on the necklace he originally proposed to me with. I didn't take off my wedding rings til the day Steve proposed to me.

I couldn't - they meant too much to me and I never felt 'single.' Maybe that sounds weird, especially after I started dating again, but I will always wear the title as Jeremy's wife. Steve never felt threatened by that, and he knew it was very special to me. When Steve gave me a beautiful new ring, I put my rings from Jeremy on my necklace along with his. Steve was very gracious about this sensitive subject and offered to let me do whatever I wanted with the rings: keep them as is, combine them with something he would give me, or get a new ring.

If you’re in early dating, don’t hesitate to have a grownup, direct conversation about his readiness to feel deep connection with another woman. And I want to thank and honor you all for sharing so thoughtfully and honestly.

But I would like to dig just a little deeper than I did with my initial writing.

Together we examine the good, the bad, and the ugly parts of life as a widowed person.

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I know there are a lot of options and I know eventually, I'll have to decide on one.

Look, here’s my best advice: know your must have’s, and go into every date looking for at least one thing that is RIGHT about him. It is true that some think they are ready but not (just like after a breakup, right? Don’t assume any specific number of months or years is required until he’s ready. In fact just writing that makes me feel like throwing up.

Then believe him, and pay attention to his actions. Some of you shared your positive experiences and thanked me. I’m happy to say that I’ve never had to experience the grief of losing a spouse.

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